019 Tony Mayo Reads the bonus chapter of The Courage to Be in Community • PODCAST [Refresh]

 


 

How to BE in Courageous, Genuine Relationships

This podcast is Tony Mayo reading the bonus chapter to his Amazon #1 best-selling book, The Courage to be in Community.

The focus of the book was the importance of compassion and authenticity, while this new chapter is all about implementation, with specific advice on how to be compassionate and authentic in your day-to-day life. The twenty-minute podcast is a simple, practical guide to building better relationships at work and at home, with answers to these reader questions:

  • What can I do to deepen relationships?
  • How can I feel comfortable with people of different backgrounds, tastes, and values?
  • How do I help others feel safe to share their lives with me?
  • What habits might I establish to reduce loneliness and build community?

Tony recommends these resources for further study and practice.

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018 A conversation with executive coaching client Ron Dimon. Part 9 • PODCAST [Refresh]


 

Click here for Tony Mayo's podcastThis latest podcast is part nine of a funny and useful conversation between top executive coach Tony Mayo and his longtime client Ron Dimon. Ron is an expert on the use of information by executives of large organizations. Listen as two experienced business people play with useful ideas in this episode including:

  • Group coaching for executives
  • Power of public promises
  • Hire nice people
  • Writing a good want ad
  • Working for a jerk
  • The power of “I don’t know”
  • Build charisma with genuine curiosity
  • Whose responsibility is it to cause significant genuine conversations
  • The boss’s job is to create an environment where people can be effective
  • The CEO Conversation
  • Unleash creativity by exchanging certainty for confidence

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017 A conversation with executive coaching client Ron Dimon. Part 8 • PODCAST [Refresh]

 


 

Click here for Tony Mayo's podcastThis latest podcast is part eight of a funny and useful conversation between top executive coach Tony Mayo and his longtime client Ron Dimon. Ron is an expert on the use of information by executives of large organizations. Listen as two experienced business people play with useful ideas in this episode including:

  • Management and sales rely upon the same essential skill
  • Why salesperson with the most technical knowledge of the product is almost never the most top producer
  • The Sandler Sales System
  • Giving back the check
  • The awesome power of the skeptical salesperson
  • Why coaches avoid giving advice, opinions and tips
  • VSOP group coaching for executives
  • Problem vs breakdown
  • Internal vs. external conversations
  • Probing the past vs. future focus
  • Effective conversation with an employee or vendor who is late with a deliverable or deadline

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016 Free: Audible® book sample • PODCAST [Refresh]

 


 

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Podcast #16: Tony reads a short sample from his first book: The Courage to Be in Community. The complete audiobook is for sale on iTunes and Audible.

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Executive Coaching by Email for Business Owners


The Business Owner’s Executive Coach, Tony Mayo has shared a great deal of practical information with business people since re-launching his free e-mail newsletter in 2008.
Here is a list of topics covered. Newsletter sample from Tony MayoJust click on any title to read more.

008 Truth or Consequences? Teleseminar Discussion • PODCAST [Refresh]

 


 

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Integrity is usually a major conversation when I coach groups of executives. It almost always comes up in the context of arriving at the meeting on time or returning promptly from breaks.1 This leads to a discussion of consequences, by which people mean punishments for not being on time: fines, humiliation, etc. This opens a powerful examination of monitoring, enforcement, and integrity throughout the organization.

 


 

This podcast is a teleseminar discussion of one of my favorite blog posts, Truth or Consequences: Beyond the punishment model. Managing your employees with straight talk and accountability vs. punishment.

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1 For a good article on methods top executives use to be on time see this blog post from Levenger.

 


 

Attention Must Be Paid

Death of A Salesman The COVID pandemic has forced many of us to migrate even more of our lives online. Much of our world is now viewed through the keyhole of a screen, constricted to two dimensions; restricted to where the camera aims and what the text claims. We’re losing touch, texture, and context. The absence of familiar social cues defeats our usual attempts at attention and discretion, leaving us in thrall to well-financed and algorithmically-tuned manipulation of our fascination.

This insight is not original to me. On the contrary, this insight was not acceptable to me.

In 1997, when I read, A radical theory of value, in Wired, I thought Professor Goldhaber was nuts or grasping for a headline with another The Internet changes everything! hyperbole. The shocking subtitle was meant literally, The currency of the New Economy won’t be money, but attention. I was skeptical. Sure, every child is exhorted to, “Pay attention!” But that was a “just” metaphor. I had not noticed anyone collecting money for the attention “paid.”

Now, I see his prediction manifested globally. How else to explain the (more…)

Video Streaming for Speakers, Trainers, & Coaches V02

I’ve been “upping my game” on video streaming to cope with the new market conditions created by the pandemic. I’ll be sharing what I’ve learned here and on my social media.

Here’s my first instructional live stream. Right below is an equipment list. To keep up with my newest demos and How-Tos, subscribe to my social media or newsletter here.



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Hardware

BlackMagic Design Video Capture Card 
BlackMagic Design ATEM  Mini Pro
Blue® Yeti
Blue® Yeti Pro
Elgato Stream Deck
Elgato Stream Deck XL
Logitech Camera C922
Logitech Camera C930e
Sennheiser headset
Shure PGX4 Wireless Lavalier
Teleprompter
Vidpro XM-L Lavalier
Yamaha MG10XU
Zhiyun Smooth 4  Gimbal

Shareware

OBS Studio https://obsproject.com/

V-B Audio VoiceMeeter https://vb-audio.com/Voicemeeter/

BitFocus Companion https://bitfocus.io/

USB Device Tree Viewer https://www.uwe-sieber.de/usbtreeview_e.html


 

What Happens in the Brain When We Disagree


I happened to see this article, What Happens in the Brain When We Disagree, a few minutes after coaching a client on an important negotiation. The essence of what these scientists discovered by watching brain activity during a hypothetical real estate negotiation is, when people disagreed, their brains became less sensitive to the strength of others’ opinions.

(1) If we sense that the counterparty essentially agrees with our fundamental position we are able to logically consider their evidence, even if it contradicts our position.

(2) If we sense they disagree, our response is dominated by the fear-generating parts of the brain and we dig into a defensive, less logical posture.

This confirms the old adage, Start by establishing common ground, e.g., Philosopher Daniel Dennett on How to Argue.

How to compose a successful critical commentary: 

  1. You should attempt to re-express your target’s position so clearly, vividly, and fairly that your target says, “Thanks, I wish I’d thought of putting it that way.
  2. You should list any points of agreement (especially if they are not matters of general or widespread agreement).
  3. You should mention anything you have learned from your target.
  4. Only then are you permitted to say so much as a word of rebuttal or criticism.

 
Is there anything about human relations that has not been written thousands of years ago?

 

He that answereth a matter before he heareth it,
it is folly and shame unto him

Proverbs 18:13