Hello. I’m Tony Mayo, the Business Owner’s Executive Coach … with one quick idea you can use in your business today.
I’ve spoken on other podcasts and videos about the defining importance of language to human life, to the quality of your life. One of my favorite techniques, a tip you can use several times a day, is to reduce how often you say, “I’ve got to do this.” “I have to do that.”, when the reality is, if you’re honest with yourself, …you don’t have to. You’re not being compelled or forced. You’re choosing it. In fact, often that thing you say you’ve got to do …is something you want to do. It’s a sign that your life is working.
A client said to me, “I need to finish our coaching call exactly on time today, because I’ve got to go to my son’s soccer game.”
I said, “Whoa, whoa! No. You can’t say that to me, or …to yourself. You’ve designed your life. You own the factory. It’s your company. You _get_ to walk out of your office any afternoon you please, and go where you choose. Hey, you _get_ to go to your son’s soccer game today. If you don’t want to, don’t. Nobody’s holding a gun to your head.”
I remember a movie, well a scene from a movie , in which Morgan Freeman is playing the role of man unjustly placed in jail. A guard is trying to get him to step out of his cell, and the prisoner won’t go. The guard, exasperated, says, “You’ve _got_ to come out!” The prisoner gives him a cold, hard look and says, “The only thing I’ve _got_ to do is die.” And, as far as we know, that’s the only “got to,” the only “have to” in your life.
All the rest are your choices. Almost every action is optional. Treat ’em that way, speak about them that way. You’ve made choices, celebrate them or change them, but don’t pretend to be the victim of them, because… you don’t have to. You get to.
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